Mastering YOU Monday...college, life and change oh my!


Betcha thought I'd never come back to blogging...you and me both! Wow! I’ve never taken a five month hiatus from my blog before; needless to say, I’ve missed writing, but most importantly…I’ve missed y’all!!! I must admit though, I stayed away from anything dealing with blogging while I was away. Pretty much off of social media as well.  Life just kinda gets like that sometimes…ya know.


 Sooo much has happened since I’ve been away. Let’s see…I turned 46, I had two surgeries...one
being major (I’ll talk more about that in my next blog post), had my 2nd bloggaversary sometime in June…IKR, we closed on our church building, God opened phenomenal doors for us –ministry and personal,  our youngest graduated from high school and went off to college AND my mother-in-law suddenly and unexpectedly passed away! So, I guess you can say I’ve gone through a range of emotions over the past few months!  I’ve said all that as a segue to my blog post dealing with a constant we all will encounter in our lives…change.


In this life change is inevitable. I should know – we just dropped our youngest off at college. Yes, the last little birdie to fly the coup! Might I add… we’ve done this same routine twice before with our oldest and middle children - 7 and 5 years ago.  But, it’s something about letting go of the “baby”  that makes this whole change thing hit.you.dead.smack.in.the.face, but nonetheless…a change is gonna come!


Seeing as if change comes in our lives, albeit at our welcoming or disdain, I surmise the best thing to do is to just go with the flow…it always makes things easier….it really does!


As I, along with the other seven dorm/suite mothers, happily went about making our sons’ beds…while explaining to them how not to let anything touch the floor because you just don’t know what the previous tenant had(knowing that it all fell on deaf ears as they were all too eager getting to know one another). Now, where was I…oh yeah, hanging their clothes in the closet, neatly folding their clothes in the drawer(don’t even ask), disinfecting their bathrooms and spraying everything in sight with an inch layer of Lysol! I know, pathetic right! My husband said he watched in amazement - not only at the fact that he realized ALL mothers in the universe were exactly alike, but he realized how much I was in my element and how I was anointed and graced to mother.  Wow, what an awesome compliment! Here I was, some 25 years deep into doing this “mothering” thing and it suddenly hit me…that was where my element was all along. Teaching, disciplining, but most of all nurturing my babies! Just to get them to this place…becoming self sufficient, compassionate adults who love Jesus. SN...*rest assured moms moms and dads.  All those times you THOUGHT your job wasn’t important or what you said to them and did for them were all in vain; do know that all of the time spent is a seed sown towards a BIG harvest on one of your greatest investments…your children*! And as we drove off, leaving our baby boy behind to make grown-up decisions without our input and to go about his everyday tasks with people he didn’t know…I realized at that very moment my role as mother was about to take a dramatic shift.


Walking away from his dorm suite. Driving away from his dorm. In other words..."letting go". :-)

 But you know what? Surprising everyone –including myself (because I sure had envisioned the whole scene in my mind of how I would be crying unconsolably (there and back) and the family would have to put me to bed because I would be too outdone)...pretty dramatic right? But nope, instead I smiled, knowing that it was all going to be okay. And you know what? Here it is a month or so later and we have totally adjusted…with no qualms whatsoever!! And it didn't hurt that God blessed him with a roommate with his personality. God is absolutely AMAZING that way! I realized in that very moment two things...for the past 25 years, all the time I had invested in nurturing my children was about to pay off…one way or another AND my number one task on this earth was mothering and everything else God allowed me to do was considered a blessing and icing on the cake!



I now see that as a 46 year old, my burning desire to write wasn’t me being all over the place with my emotions, a fluke or some mid-life crisis! Nope, not at all. It was God unleashing the vision and passion He had growing and hiding and refining deep within my belly - waiting for that right moment (which is now) when my lifelong assignment would - not so much change - but merely take a different more scenic route, as a mother’s job is never completed…right? BUT, most importantly, it was Him preparing me for the upcoming season of change, so I wouldn’t (as many of us find ourselves during a transition) have feelings of unimportance or worse…uselessness. With that being said, I encourage you to not quench or dispel those feelings of adventuresome and passion. It just may be God depositing something in you to prepare you for the next assignment in life. Besides, when one assignment has been completed...if you're not in the grave...there's another one waiting around the corner for you! So embrace that change and new venture (that will inevitably happen) with a merry heart, knowing that it’s all a part of the circle of life and God’s unfailing plan! Btw…it sure feels good to be back!!  Ecclesiastes 3:1, Jeremiah 29:11

All Rights Reserved copyright© 2012-2014 Michell Pulliam “Prowess and Pearls” by Michell Pulliam





                                             
       

 Follow on Bloglovin



Enter email below to receive notifications of new post:


Delivered by FeedBurner

30 comments:

  1. So nice to hear from you again, Michelle. Condolences on the passing of your mother in law. My father in law passed as well. Rough times. I stand on the precipice of losing my youngest next year as well. I know it will be hard for me, but right for her, and all in God's mighty hand. Sending you love today!

    ReplyDelete
  2. Hey Seana!!! So good to hear from YOU and so good to be back! Yeah, I was feeling just like you last year around this time. Especially when all the college stuff started coming in the mail...lol! But you're so right...hard for us, BUT so good for them. Sending my love back to you lady! <3

    ReplyDelete
  3. Welcome Back. I see a lot went on. Sorry about your loss and hope that you are healthy.

    I dropped off my oldest at college last month, it is a huge change.

    Blessing to you.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Hey there Patrick!! Thanks so much! Yes, it's definitely a HUGE change...congrats to your son/daughter! Blessings to you as well my friend!

      Delete
  4. Beautiful - very inspiring and energetic. So glad to have you back Michell!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thanks Kenya! It's so good to be back and writing! Have a good one my friend and let me know when you come back through Columbia again...had a wonderful time with you and Michelle!

      Delete
  5. YOU'RE BACK!!!!! YAY!!!!! YAHOO!!!! YIPPEE!!!!!!!!!!! I am SO EXCITED (Can you tell? lol) that you are back and what a doozer of a post to begin with Michell!!!

    Wow. Lots of change... and although there are some of those changes - especially the loss of your MIL (SO sorry) that are more endure than celebrated, the passion God plants in us will surely grow with each transition and new season! And you girl? Oh you GOT IT!!

    I love how you so beautifully described your motherhood calling and assignment and how your man was just so in tune with watching you...and noticing the blessing in who you are.

    I am thrilled that your baby is off to a great start at college and you are now beginning the next chapter of motherhood- which leaves room for NEW chapters of NEW passions!!!

    Oh Michell...

    I am SO glad to have you back!!!

    LOVE you! <3 XOXOXO

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Bahahaaaa Chris...you're too much girl!! LOL!! Thank you so much my friend!! I can always count on you to be an encourager and cheerleader...I just love you to pieces!!!!

      Yeah, she passed away the same week our son graduated from high school, so it was a bittersweet week. Can't believe the "next" chapter is here, but I'm so excited to see what unfolds!!

      Sooo glad to be back to blogging and connecting with you in the bloggersphere! LOVE YOU BACK LADY! xoxoxo

      Delete
  6. Hi Michell! WELCOME BACK! You had such a tumultuous five months...I'm so sorry about the passing of your mother-in-law.
    How beautiful of your husband to notice your mothering gift! I know your little one is going to do so well in school because of your preparation and prayers. And what a gift for you, knowing that your writing urge is back and you're ready to go. Looks like I'm not the only one happy to see you again :)
    Blessings to you and yours,
    Ceil

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Awww...thank you so much Ceil!! Ir was definitely a crazy five months, but I'm so glad to get my mojo back for sure! Blessings to you and yours as well my friend!

      Delete
  7. So thankful you are back!! I'm very glad you got away and refreshed- and excited to read all that happened on your break! Love you sweet friend!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Hey Ash! HA! The time flew by so fast, I'm not sure if I got ALL the refreshing I needed, lol!! Love you too girlie!! xoxoxo

      Delete
  8. Oh, goodness! No wonder you've taken some time off. Not one but TWO surgeries and then graduation and sending your baby to college! I am so sorry about your Mother in Law. I'll be praying for you and your family.

    I love how you wrote about change. When you trust in God, you know it will be okay. That has gotten me through some really tough times lately (and it always will.)

    Beautiful post and WELCOME BACK!! --Lisa

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. IKR!! And I'm three weeks post-op in my second surgery! Thank you so much for your prayers! Yes, trusting in Him always works, doesn't it. :-) Thanks so much Lisa...blessings!

      Delete
  9. Wow Michell, you have had a lot going on my friend. A blogging hiatus is totally understandable. Good to see you back again.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Hey there Wanda! It's so good to be back my friend!

      Delete
  10. May God continue to be with you and your family due to the passing of your loved one. It is so good to have you back! I hope and pray that you are recovering well. Congratulations on your new church. Blessings to your son during his first year of college!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Awww...thanks so much Trinity for your encouraging words! Blessings to you and yours as well! :-)

      Delete
  11. How wonderful to see you back; missed you dearly sweet sister! Very sorry to hear about your Mother-in-law; blessings to you and your dear family. Oh, I remember quite well seeing my youngest off to college and becoming empty nesters. But before long, my hubby and I were quite happy with the change! Ha! And what beauty it is to see our children grow and succeed! Oh yes; so much change!

    Blessings dear friend; have a blessed week!
    Denise

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Missed you too my friend!! Thanks so much! We are definitely enjoying the change...more than I thought we would, lol! Oh yes, it is a parent's greatest reward...to see our children grow and succeed. May you do the same sis! xoxo

      Delete
  12. So great to see you back! I've been checking my feed, and I was pleasantly surprised to see your post! You had a lot going on in the past 5 months, so a blogging break is totally acceptable! Welcome back!

    ReplyDelete
  13. Hey Kalley!! Thanks so much!! Yes...it was much needed, lol! But I'm so glad to be back! Thanks for stopping by!

    ReplyDelete
  14. I am new to your site and adore it! You seem to have a huge and beautiful heart for Christ!! You are His light! :) 'Sounds like you had a couple of dark clouds & more blessings as well. I am sorry you went through so much, but I am happy you are back! ... And Jesus has your back! I just followed you on Instagram, yay!! Have a great & blessed every day!! xo

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Hi Cindy!! Thank you for your words of encouragement...they are greatly appreciated! Yes He does! :-D Thanks so much for stopping by! May you have a great and blessed "every" day as well...love that!

      Delete
  15. Wow Michell what a hiatus! Such an emotional roller coster! I am glad to see you back and good to know that you adjust to all these changes so well. Even in my absence you all are always in my prayers! Much like you, I had to take a break due to CHANGE! I have adjusted to my new work schedule but there is no way I can do all the blog stuff I used to do. Going with the flow ;) Love ya, Welcome back!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Heyyy Joi!! Welcome back to you too girl!! Yes, it was definitely a crazy summer...thank God life has stabilized! Lol! Thanks so much for your prayers my friend! IKR...it sure does take the pressure off, just going with the flow! Love ya back!! :-)

      Delete

Thanks so much for dropping by...I really appreciate it! Please check back for a response to your comment, as I post all responses to comments here on the blog, not via email. Please note, as this is a Christian blog...any comment that contains offensive and/or inappropriate language will be sent to the authorities...NAH, but seriously though, they WILL BE deleted. :-) Have a great day...I call you blessed! ;-)